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The techniques for waxing men are basically the same as for waxing women, but men do present some challenges that you never encounter with women.  You are not likely to learn about these concerns in school, but I have learned about them during my many years of waxing men. You can approach these challenges with confidence if you recognize and prepare for them in advance.

Men can be more sensitive to pain
Men usually enjoy the stereotype that they are tougher than women, but when it comes to waxing we often find the reverse to be true.  Men who are new to waxing can be much more sensitive to the pain of hair removal than a woman is.

I'll admit that, at first, I thought men were just being babies about it but I came to realize that sometimes there are real, physical reasons why removing a man's hair can hurt more than it does to remove a woman's hair.

This subject of why a man can be more sensitive to the pain of hair removal is discussed in much greater detail in my book, "What Every Waxer Needs to Know About Inflammation," but here are some of the basic reasons why men feel more pain when hair is removed.

Men have denser, deeper hair
The higher testosterone levels produced by men means their hair grows differently than women's hair. Testosterone exerts a strong influence over hair growth as well as the oil production from sebaceous glands.

In general, the hair that men grow is denser than that of women. That means there can be more hair per square inch. If you pull a patch of hair from a man's body, you will probably be pulling out more hair than you would from the same sized patch on a woman.  Since each hair follicle has a set of nerves attached to it, having more hair per square inch is going to cause more nerve reaction and more pain when a patch is removed.

A man's hair can also be larger in diameter and rooted deeper than that of a woman. You may be pulling hair up through several more layers of the dermis and epidermis, thereby causing more trauma. The larger size of the hair shaft also increases the chance that cells along the follicle walls will be irritated as the hair exits.

One way to address this problem is to remove hair in smaller sections when you are working on a man than you would for a woman. Removing a smaller amount of hair in each pull is a way of compensating for the greater number of hairs and their deeper roots.  This is especially true for men who are new to waxing. Experienced waxing clients can tolerate much more than a novice can.

Regardless of how experienced the client is, there are three specific areas on a man's body known to hurt more when hair is removed. The reason these areas hurt more is because of a particular type of nerve that is clustered there. These nerves cause a level of pain in men that we don't experience with women.

The Neck
The back of the neck is the part of the body that most men say hurts the most to have hair removed. The closer you get to the hairline, the more sensitive hair removal becomes. Men choose to have this hair removed because it gives them a clean neckline for a long time.  A barber can shave their neck, but the hair starts growing back right away.

The nerves around the neck are super-sensitive because their job is to warn us of anything that comes up from behind. Since we don't have eyes in the back of our head, the sensitive nerves along the back of the neck take on the job of warning us what is behind. Their response is quick, sharp, and not easily ignored.

Women don't typically ask to have their neck waxed, but it is fairly common for men. You can reduce some of the sensitivity by applying pressure longer after each pull.

The Back
There is one area of the back that is particularly sensitive on a man. It is the area that lies directly over the latissimus dorsi muscles, which run under the arms and towards the spine.

The "lats" are easy to recognize in a man because they form the widest part of the back. A dense collection of specialized nerves are located here. These nerves cause more pain, more inflammation, and more problems with pimples or rashes after waxing.

One way to calm down these nerves is to put a warm, moist washcloth over the area for about 3 minutes after removing the hair.

The Chest
The center of a man's chest is particularly sensitive to both pain and inflammation when hair is removed. The hair that grows on the chest is some of the longest, thickest and coarsest of a man's entire body. Hair usually grows thickest in the center of the chest, directly over the sternum.

This hair can be very troublesome to remove without getting a significant inflammatory reaction, especially in men with a very hairy chest. Unfortunately, these are the same men who often come to you to have it removed.

A man who has never tried to wax his chest before probably has an image of how incredibly smooth and sleek he will look afterwards. Rarely does he contemplate the reality, which is that he may have a rash or pimples down the center of his chest for several days or even weeks after waxing.

One way to address this problem is to minimize the nerve response by removing the hair in smaller sections.  Another way is to increase the amount of time you hold pressure after the pull.

My book, "What Every Waxer Needs to Know About Inflammation" has several more tips and ideas for decreasing the pain and inflammation of these sensitive areas on men. If you are thinking of taking on male clients, it is a must-read.

The Dreaded Erection
Probably the most worrisome concern of waxers who are considering taking on male clients for Brazilian waxing is what to do if the man gets an erection while getting waxed.

You should know that the vast majority of men have this same fear. They don't want it to happen, and can be very embarrassed about it. For men, getting an erection can be an involuntary reaction. You should not take it personally, and you should not think it means he is going to attack you. If you need to wax the shaft of the penis, doing it while erect will make the job much easier. Therefore, an erection isn't necessarily a bad thing from a waxer's perspective.

The best thing to do is address this concern right from the start, before they even get undressed. You can say, "I know a lot of men are worried about getting an erection while we are waxing. I understand this is an involuntary reaction, and if it happens I won't take it personally. What we will do is simply ignore it and keep working. I find that it goes away in a couple of minutes if we don't give it any attention. I may also put a cool washcloth over the area if needed."

This will ease your client's worry and reduce the likelihood that it will happen. But it will happen, sooner or later, in your practice. Knowing how to deal with it before it happens makes the situation much easier to handle and keeps you in control.

One of the most important attitudes that a waxer brings to the job is that waxing is not sexual. It is a job that must be done, and we should just get to work. Be confident in your approach and firm in your boundaries. If a client begins to talk about sexual topics, discourage the conversation politely but firmly.

Some women, myself included when I was younger, become nervous when a man says inappropriate things. Their response to this nervousness will be to giggle. This is the wrong signal to send. It's confusing to the man and may lead him to believe that you think his remarks are funny or that you want him to continue.  Watch for this behavior in yourself and recognize that it is inappropriate. Use your position as a waxer to practice being strong and confidant while a client is under your care.

Once you understand that the challenges of waxing men can be easily overcome, you will find them to be some of the most loyal and profitable clients you will have.  

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"Men can be some of your most loyal and valuable clients, but you need to understand their unique challenges."